What You Gotta Know about Kids, Social Media, and Self-Esteem

It is no secret that social media has become a significant part of many people’s lives, including the lives of children and teens. While it can be a great way to stay connected with friends and family, it is important that parents understand how social media use can affect their child’s self-esteem. Here are a few things parents should be aware of when it comes to their child's social media and self-esteem:

Comparison and Competition

One of the most dangerous aspects of social media is that children can easily fall into the trap of comparison and competition. With platforms such as Instagram, which focus on appearance, children can be exposed to unrealistic societal standards of beauty and success. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity if they feel like they don’t measure up.

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is another dangerous aspect of social media that parents need to be aware of when it comes to their child's self-esteem. Bullying in any form can be detrimental to a person’s self-esteem but cyberbullying is especially dangerous because it can reach so many people and often takes place anonymously.

Social Media Balance

Just like with anything else, balance is key when it comes to social media and children's self-esteem. Too much time spent on social media can be draining and lead to negative feelings, while taking a break from it can help children recharge and feel more positive about themselves.

Media Literacy

Teaching children how to properly use social media is important in ensuring that their self-esteem isn’t negatively affected. This includes teaching them the importance of privacy settings, how to recognize fake news, and the importance of abstaining from interacting with negative content.

Parental Support

Finally, it is important that parents provide their children with a sense of support when it comes to social media use. Letting your child know that you are there for them if they need to talk about anything can help build their confidence and self-esteem.

Social media can be a great tool for staying connected, but it is important that parents are aware of how their child is using it and the effects it can have on their self-esteem. By educating yourself on these topics and being open to conversation with your child, you can help ensure they are using social media responsibly and in a way that doesn’t negatively impact their self-esteem.

How to Help Your Child Develop Positive Self-Esteem

In addition to being aware of the potential negative effects social media can have on your child’s self-esteem, there are also a few things parents can do to help their children develop healthy and positive self-esteem, such as:

Helping Your Child Identify Strengths

Take time to help your child identify their strengths and focus on them. This can be anything from creating a list of their strongest traits to talking about how they’ve gotten better at something over time. Doing this will help your child develop a more positive mindset about themselves and their abilities.

Encouraging Positive Self-Talk

Encourage positive self-talk by helping your child identify things they like about themselves or that they’ve done well. This can be a great way to combat any negative thoughts they may have, and it will help them to stay focused on the positives instead of the negatives.

Practice Active Listening

Your kids want to know they’re being heard. When you use active listening techniques like maintaining eye contact, staying focused on them, repeating what they said so they know you heard them, and asking probative questions, it shows your kids that they matter and what they have to say is important.

Showing Appreciation

Finally, take the time to show your child that you appreciate them. This can be as simple as complimenting them on something they’ve done or telling them how proud you are of their accomplishments. Doing this will help boost their self-esteem and make them feel loved and appreciated.

Final Thoughts

When you understand and appreciate the potential impact social media can have on your child's self-esteem and how taking steps to help them build their own positive self-image, you can help ensure that your child has a healthy outlook on life. Teaching them the importance of balancing social media use with other activities and modeling positive self-talk are just two of the ways you can be a role model and guide for your child as they navigate this ever-changing world.

The conversation around mental health is becoming increasingly important, particularly as it relates to social media use among children and teens. As a parent, it is essential that you stay informed and involved in your child's online activities so that you can ensure they are using social media in a way that doesn’t negatively impact their self-esteem.

You can also help by encouraging open communication with your child about their thoughts and feelings, and providing them with access to mental health resources if needed. By taking steps to stay informed and involved in your child's life, you can help ensure they have a healthy relationship with social media as well as positive self-esteem.

At the end of the day, it is important to remember that self-esteem is something that develops over time and that it takes effort from both the parent and child to create a healthy and positive mindset. By understanding the potential impact of social media on your child's self-esteem, taking steps to help them build their own positive self-image, and encouraging open communication about mental health, you can ensure your child has a healthy outlook on life.

By staying informed and involved in your child's online activities, you can also help ensure that they are using social media in a responsible and positive way. Teaching them the importance of balance when it comes to their social media use can be especially helpful in keeping them from becoming overly reliant on the platform as a source of validation or connection.

Finally, providing them with access to mental health resources if needed can also be beneficial in helping them process any negative feelings they may encounter online. With the right guidance and support, your child can feel confident in navigating social media as well as embracing a healthy and positive self-esteem.

Key Takeaways

Here are a few key takeaways for parents to remember when it comes to social media and self-esteem:

  1. Stay informed about the potential impact of social media on your child's mental health.

  2. Provide support and access to mental health resources if needed.

  3. Encourage open communication with your child about their thoughts and feelings.

  4. Model positive self-talk and encourage constructive criticism.

  5. Show appreciation for your child's accomplishments and efforts.

  6. Teach them the importance of balancing social media use with other activities.

  7. Remember that self-esteem is something that develops over time and takes effort from both the parent and child.

  8. Help create an environment of understanding, support and safety when it comes to social media use.

  9. Equip your child with the resources they need to make healthy decisions online.

  10. Encourage them to embrace a positive sense of self-esteem. 

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Julie Fisher, M.Ed.

Julie Fisher is the founder of Your Digital Guardian and Echo70.  She is an author and keynote speaker with 25 years of training and education experience.  Julie previously worked as a high school teacher, a nonprofit executive director and a tech start-up CEO.

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